People in personal, professional and social lives often fail to spot their enemies who appear as their friends (called as 'frenemies' - friends+enemies). Spotting them early and maintaining a safe distance keep us healthy both mentaly and also physically. Here are some simple devices to identify them:-
- Are you good in body language reading? If you find that frenemies' body & oral language contradict, then they could be frenemies.
- They have the habit of comparing you with others to demoralise you.
- When you are in urgent need of help, they might not come forward.
- Without valid reasons, they often oppose your suggestions / advice.
- They might speak unfavourably about you to others.
- They always compete with you constantly and keep track of your progress.
- Many times, it can be seen that to save oneself, an employee can involve his / her friend easily. Why it happens & what you should have / should not have done?
- Never discuss your personal issues with your colleagues / superiors / peers & subordinates.
- Never criticise your bosss in front of them. The other person might use your criticisim to get into the good books of your boss.
- Maintain professional relationship with others. Never mix your personal and professional life.
- Maintain appropriate distance in the office. Avoid involving in physical display of affection.
- Do not use office emails and messengers for personal conversation. And never involve in office romances which will hinder career growth.